Thursday, March 28, 2013

We are telling!

Today, we told two of our family members that we are expecting a baby.

We started by telling one of the grandmothers to be (let’s call her Granny G). As we were discussing through Skype, we simply ended up showing our latest scan to the camera, but the penny didn’t drop right away… I didn’t quite expect that Granny G would think that one of us was sick and that we were showing the medical record of whatever disease was afflicting us… As she was obviously beginning to panic, we decided to rectify the situation, calling her “grandmother” and explaining that we were expecting a baby. The expression on her face changed very quickly, from Fear to Disbelief, then from Disbelief to Joy! ;-) It was priceless. This was a moment that we will remember forever!

We then decided to call one of the aunts to be (let’s call her Auntie J). We made sure that we wouldn’t make the same mistake and scare her… We ended up having a simple phone conversation: no video! I took the easy way out and just told her that we were expecting a baby. Once again, her reaction was not quite what I was expecting. Auntie J was so overcome with Joy that it was impossible for her to talk as she couldn’t stop crying and sobbing. It lasted for two minutes straight! ;-) This also was a moment that we will remember forever.

We will tell more people on Saturday…

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

This is real…

This is getting very real… We have just received our new scan (18 Weeks / 2 Days), which happened much sooner than we expected! ;-) The pictures are great, everything appears normal and it feels like a psychological barrier has just been broken.

It is now time for us to tell our families and close friends that we are pregnant. We will also begin setting up the nursery, buying baby stuff, reading baby books… Our Life is about to change and we can’t wait! ;-)

Here are some of the pictures taken from the scan that Dr. Meenakshi Puranik has just e-mailed us…

Here’s a picture of the head:

Here’s a picture of the spine:

And, cherry on the cake, here’s a 3D picture of our baby, smiling for the camera!

Ok, it still looks a bit like an alien but our hearts are melting, and we are more than ready to welcome this little heart into our World.

Who is the biological father?

This is probably one of the first questions our respective families will ask… Our answer will be short and simple: “we won’t tell you.” We don’t want to hurt anybody’s feelings; we just believe that our child would be welcome differently whether a genetic link is established or not, and we don’t want that to happen. Our child will be born out of Love and it is all that matters. When the child will be mature enough to ask and understand, then we will provide an answer.

Our decision is not written in stone, it may change, but right now it feels like the right thing to do.

Also, our intent is for us both to become biological fathers, as we would like our child to have siblings… This means that in the very near future, we are planning on starting the same process again with the genetic material of the one of us who hasn’t “participated” yet.

We want a big family! ;-)

Sunday, March 24, 2013

First Act

I will try to open the first act of our blog by introducing ourselves with a few words. We are a gay couple from San Diego, and we are on our way to fulfilling one of our dreams: becoming parents. After a few ups and downs, we came to the conclusion that Surrogacy would be our best option and, after a few more ups and downs, we decided that we would hire WeeCare Partners USA to fulfill our dream.

We are now 18 weeks pregnant.

Surrogacy in India is not for the faint of heart. Like all the people who are currently going through the same experience, we have had our fair share of stress, but we have met wonderful people along the way...

First of all, we have met another San Diego gay couple who just had two baby boys. They gave us valuable advice and connected us to Victor Hui Wee’s agency (WeeCare Partners USA, service agency for India Surrogacy). Victor has basically enabled our dream, connecting us with more wonderful people, such as Dr. Meenakshi Puranik who is supervising the whole process. We are very thankful to have met such an amazing and talented woman. We also have to thank our egg donation agency and our egg donor, who has been wonderful and charming. We would also like to mention our driver, Sachin, who has guided us through the chaos of Mumbai’s traffic.

We have created this blog as a way to keep our families and close friends informed. Until our baby is born, we don’t want anybody else to know.

Originally, we wanted to wait until the end of our third trimester to tell our families and close friends about the good news, but due to new Indian regulations (“India bans gay foreign couples from surrogacy”), we eventually decided to wait until we get clarification on how they would apply to us, as we were already pregnant. Less than a week ago, we finally got the clarification we have been waiting for and it was good news! ;-)

We are now getting excited as we are about to tell our parents!

We are basically waiting until we get our next ultrasound scan before we tell them, which should take less than 2 weeks.

We can hardly wait! ;-)